The weather is slowly starting to warm up which indicates pool szn is right around the corner. You may have already crossed New Bathing Suit off your summer check-list, but what about a hair removal? Wax, shave or maybe not removing anything at all. I have an array of questions that cross my mind when highlighting the thought of grooming my lady garden.  First things first, if you like to spot Au Natural please don’t take this as a personal attack- you do you! But, if you are on the market for a wax and you just don’t know what to expect, stay tuned because I asked an esthetician about all the things to know before you book your first brazilian wax.

Fun fact, I work in a salon which also offers waxing and facial appointments. No, you won’t have two people working on you at once, yes the spa services are in a private room away from the fuss of haircuts and colour transformations. I got the chance to sit down with my boss Xac who has been an esthetician for 10+ years and asked her all the scary hairy q’s that kept me up the night before my first wax.

  • What the heck is a brazilian wax?
    Most of us are familiar with bikini waxing, the Brazilian wax removes even more hair from the pubic area…. including the labial and anal hair.
  • Do I have to get it ALL off??
    Nope! Everyone has their preference. Many clients opt to go completely bald, others will go for leaving a strip, or triangle (of hair)…. each wax is customized to the clients desired look. Every esthetician is different, but I consider a wax a Brazilian if the hair on the labia and/or the anal area is removed.
  • How should I prepare for my first wax?
    The MOST important thing to do before a Brazilian wax is to let that hair GROW. In order to achieve a smooth, long lasting wax the hair needs to be 1/4-1/2 inch long…. as long as a grain of rice, usually about 12-14 days of growth will result in the cleanest (and most painless) wax. If the hair is too long, you’ll want to trim. But be sure not to trim too short!
  • Another great thing to do, but is not required, is to lightly exfoliate the skin with a mild, abrasive exfoliant. This will ensure that any hairs trapped under dead skin will be on the surface and ready to wax.
  • Is it normal to feel this embarrassed?
    We’re all human and we all have insecurities. So it’s totally understandable that walking into your first Brazilian wax can have you anxious or embarrassed. It’s normal. But it’s your esthetician’s job to make sure you are as comfortable as you can be (naked from the waist down with your legs butterflied lol). But seriously, remember the esthetician is a professional and does Brazilian waxing on a regular basis. Chances are, they’ve seen “it all “.
  • Can I keep my legs closed?
    You ABSOLUTELY CANNOT have your legs closed during a Brazilian wax! Be prepared to spread those legs ladies. If the Esty can’t see it, they can’t wax it! Don’t be shy, you will not have great results if your esthetician has to hold your legs apart and wax you at the same time.
  • Will it hurt?
    Everyone tolerates pain differently but generally yes. We’ll be “ripping” hair from your body and that generally hurts. Other factors do come into play. Like “how much experience your Esty has with Brazilians, how long the hair is, the type of wax, how close you are to your period (yes! The closer you are, the more sensitive you are). Most experienced estheticians will have their favorite waxes. I personally have a fav hard and strip wax on hand, some clients prefer a strip and others love hard wax, some like a combo of both.
  • (Myth Buster) Does taking an ibuprofen an hour beforehand help?
    I definitely have a handful of clients who swear by popping an ibuprofen an hour before coming in to ease the pain. I stress ibuprofen (Advil Or Motrin), don’t use aspirin as it will thin the blood. At the Parlour, we carry a great numbing product called No Scream Cream. It’s a topical anaesthetic that should be applied 30-45 minutes before your waxing service that eases the pain about 80%.
  1. Do you waximus the gluteus maximus?
    Ha! Heck yeah I waximus that gluteus maximus. Like I’ve said before we’re all different and also have varying amounts of hair back there. We all have some hair there and I feel you should feel clean in the front and the back. Besides, getting the anal area waxed doesn’t hurt like at all!
  2. How often should I get a wax?
    I always recommend waxing every 4-5 weeks, especially in the beginning. Most clients commit to waxing because a benefit to waxing regularly will eventually lead to less hair growth. So waxing every 4-5 weeks will insure you are clean for 2 weeks. Then weeks 2-4 the hair will grow and at week 4 it’s long enough to wax again. So weeks 4-5 are what I call “the sweet spot” and ideal to give the hair the proper time to sync to the same growth cycle which will give you smooth results for the longest period of time. And will eventually stop the hairs from growing. I always let clients know that typically at 6 weeks, we’ve missed that sweet spot. So at 6 weeks, we’re starting over again.
  3. Can you identify my vagina in a police line-up? And will you think mine us ugly.
    I get asked all the time if I remember what vagina goes to who…. and the answer is no. That’s usually followed up by “ So, once you’ve seen one, you’ve seen them all?” My response? “Once you’ve seen 20, you’ve seen them all.” Lol

I’ve been waxing for over 10 years now and I love what I do. Getting to know my clients and developing friendships, keeping up with their lives during our 20 minute sessions each month….. making their lives a little brighter or contributing to their confidence in any way or just helping to make her busy life a little less busy fulfills me…. women are badasses and all vaginas are beautiful!          -Xac

After Care, I know you’re gonna wanna show off your baby smooth skin immediately, but wait 24 -48 hours after your wax before you get crazy. You’re gonna want to let your skin chill out, so take this as your rest day after a week of crazy workouts. Your honey is just gonna have to keep their paws off of you and you don’t want to wear or do anything that causes too much friction on the area! You just got ya self together, so don’t get too wild right after this service.

So there you have it, all the hairy q’s answered by a seasoned esthetician. If you are in the Louisville area and are in need of an appointment, you can find Xac at The Parlour.

All featured photos were created and captured by Jasmine Deporta


  1. April 4, 2019 / 5:57 pm

    This was awesome! I don’t think I’ll be getting one anytime soon but I know what to expect if I do!

    • April 4, 2019 / 8:54 pm

      If you ever do – I hope this post helps answer any nervous q’s you may have!

  2. April 4, 2019 / 10:22 pm

    Great tips – but I’m still too chicken to try!

    • April 5, 2019 / 12:25 am

      Girrrl, I was too! I was so scared I peed like 5 times the hour prior to my wax bc I was so nervous and I acted like a fool. Not to mention my boss was waxing me and I was scared she was gonna judge me, or fire me (neither happened, I’ve been there for 2 more years since my first wax!).

  3. Alex A
    April 4, 2019 / 11:08 pm

    I love that you’re covering this and getting info out about it! This is in the category of what can always be awkward topics but that doesn’t mean we don’t need to know about them!!

    • April 5, 2019 / 12:26 am

      Thanks Alex, I am really just trying to open the doors to all the weird convos! We need the information, why are people so embarrassed? The people want answers!!!! I’m here to give it to them.

  4. April 4, 2019 / 11:37 pm

    Tbh it’s refreshing to hear someone talk frankly about a topic that people are scared and embarrassed about. I’m sure this is going to help some people going into the upcoming pool season!

    • April 5, 2019 / 12:27 am

      Thankyou Zac, if it helps at least one person my job is done!

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